Secondary Infertility for Christian Women

Leah after Judah - Hope in Secondary Infertility for Christian Women

Trying To Conceive

I remember a time when this meant that if I wasn't preventing, I'd get pregnant! Something changed though, and somewhere along the way I realized that I was paying attention to things like when I ovulated. And then I tried various herbs to help. Nothing did. Somehow when it went from "letting it happen" to "trying to make it happen", it became a whole lot harder, and a whole lot more complex.

And then there was the trip... I was offered a chance for a major trip. If I were pregnant by then, I knew I could not go. But if I were not, then I could not go for more than 3 weeks, because what if I ovulated and Kevin wasn't there? But I could not plan it because if I miscarried in between, then my whole cycle schedule would be off, and I could not predict which week I needed to be home for that far in advance!

An entire web sector is devoted to the topic of Trying to Conceive. It is abbreviated as "ttc", and people who haunt the ttc forums have their own brand of shorthand. That tells you just how common fertility concerns are. It also tells you how more open our society is about topics which were taboo just a century ago.

It is a bit of a delicate topic. I mean, if you are seriously going to delve into the realms of conception, you are going to run across topics that are guaranteed to bring a blush, or make you want to think you are hearing just a little too much personal information about other people's lives! And this is another reason I have not been too thrilled about the idea of consulting a professional on the subject. Some things, in my life, just ought to remain personal!

Somehow it just seems wrong to calculate spontaneity. Timing what should be an expression of love, by whether or not it will get you results other than an episode of enjoyment takes all the fun out of it for some people. After the novelty wears off, your husband may be a little irritated at the necessity of fitting it in TODAY, because your body clock says so. He'd much rather you wanted to because you were feeling like you WANTED to!

After a while, the very intimacy may begin to represent failure. Feelings of irritation or frustration may develop, which, even though they are not directed at the other person, may FEEL like they are at times. It becomes very important to nurture the relationship aside from the issue of procreation.

"And she conceived again, and bare a son:and she said, Now I will praise the Lord: therefore she called his name Judah; and left bearing." Genesis 29:35

This site is titled after this verse, which speaks of Leah. This verse offers hope, because Leah did go on to bear more children.

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