Secondary Infertility for Christian Women About Us

Leah after Judah - Hope in Secondary Infertility for Christian Women

About Us

The site was originally created by the Wheeler Family, primarily by Laura, web designer, technician, writer, homeschooler, and otherwise busy mom of 8.

Laura only counts the kids to whom she gave birth. She has experienced countless early miscarriages, plus a 20 week loss. In 2004 she became pregnant with a daughter, who died within minutes of birth due to a rare form of dwarfism. She and her husband have seven living children, of whom only 5 remain at home.

After marrying, it took Kevin and Laura 3 years before they had their first child. And not for lack of trying. The two years of feeling barren, plus one early miscarriage, left an indelible impression on Laura. Later she had to use birth control if she wanted to prevent pregnancy. She went from struggling to get pregnant, to having children prolifically. After the birth of her seventh child she and her husband took some time off. Life was very chaotic. They chose again to have more children when their youngest was six. The Lord had other plans.

A year of miscarriages later, their youngest son was diagnosed with cancer. The first few miscarriages had not been terribly difficult, because Laura always miscarried once or twice before carrying to term. It seemed like a step in the process. By the time the youngest son was diagnosed with cancer though, it was a relief in some ways to have something else to focus on. Alex had just finished the most intensive phase of treatment when a pregnancy test showed up positive, at 6 weeks. This baby stuck. And died just after birth.

This website was created nearly a year after that crushing loss. Kevin and Laura have done nothing to prevent pregnancy, and previously that would have automatically equalled a baby. Now the certainty is not there. The yearning is. The house feels like it is occupied by half a family, the sense of a missing presence is so strong, and it is not the absence of the child they lost. A few more miscarriages have indicated that fertility is still evident, but there is no assurance that a baby will stick long enough to make it to birth.

Laura built this in the hope that it can reach an aching heart, give comfort in circumstances which she has come to realize are all too common. And in the effort, perhaps give her a greater sense of usefulness instead of feeling as though she is just marking time.

"And she conceived again, and bare a son:and she said, Now I will praise the Lord: therefore she called his name Judah; and left bearing." Genesis 29:35

This site is titled after this verse, which speaks of Leah. This verse offers hope, because Leah did go on to bear more children.

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This site is provided for informational purposes only. The information here is not intended to diagnose or treat any condition, and should not replace the care and attention of qualified medical personnel. Use the information on these pages at your own risk, and, as with any information pertaining to health, nutrition, pregnancy, childbirth, or fitness, consult your physician before making any changes that might affect your overall health.